Assuming that you are sticking to the moderate category, you may want to reconsider Port Orleans French Quarter. It has boat transportation to Downtown Disney, which is a nice thing in the evenings, for dining and shopping. You can also easily catch a bus to another resort from Downtown Disney, if you have a dinner planned at a hotel restaurant. It's a pretty resort, and more compact than others, so there are not multiple bus stops. If you can stretch your budget, either Animal Kingdom Lodge or the Wilderness Lodge will give you another level of amenities, and both hotels are significantly less expensive than other Deluxe hotels. Both have excellent, and very romantic table service restaurants, and are beautifully themed. Even if you don't stay there, I recommend you plan a dinner at Jiko, at Animal Kingdom Lodge, and check out the views of the Savannah from different vantage points of the hotel lobby and the observation deck by the pool. In fact, I would plan several dinners at some of the excellent hotel restaurants-the "dress codes" are not fancy, just not a casual t-shirt and shorts type of place. Your wife can just pack a simple dress and sandals, and khakis and a collared polo shirt are fine for you. When we ate at the California Grill, my friend forgot to pack a nicer outfit, but she managed to dress up a pair of city length shorts and a nicer top and looked just fine.